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cupojoe
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| 07/02/2009 5:07 PM |
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My husband and I have been married for about two years, and our main issue is communication. We have struggled nonstop financially and my husband has gone from job to job trying to provide. We now live with my family in my old room. I have anger issues from all of the failures and have told my husband it is his fault. Having read "For Women Only", I now realize what a mistake that was and how much more damage I have caused to my marriage! My husband is constantly burdened, depressive, and has close to no self-confidence. I know it's because of the things I have said to him. I want to change and make him feel respected, affirmed, encouraged, and empowered. I'm confused as to how I can really do that after all the disrespect... what can I say and how can I act exaclty that will make him see I am truly sorry and working on myself? I still struggle every day to not show him disrespect, and I know I am going to make that mistake more than once as I work on this. How can I change his attitude and encourage him in the ways he needs?
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Byron
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| 07/10/2009 8:28 AM |
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All of us. ALL OF US! have this one thing that is a burden to us and our spouse. Jesus said, "not seven times, but seventy times seven." That means He will keep forgiving us everytime we ask for forgiveness even it is the same wrong everytime we ask. At some point we will overcome that sin, but intill that point we are learning of the never ending mercy of Jesus Christ.
It's very simple. "I'm sorry for my attitude. I have been wrong, and I have desrespected you by what I have said. I want to respect you in the right way. Will you help me learn how to respect you and encourage you? Will you forgive me? |
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Julie Fidler
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| 07/10/2009 11:08 PM |
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Been there, girlfriend. Still going through the financial struggles, actually. It's misery. I almost wrecked my marriage, too, and more than once.
You apologize and start doing and saying the right things.
You start praying instead of blaming.
You can't go back. Make your peace with your husband and start making better choices.
Go, girl!
Julie
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Angie
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| 08/21/2009 7:02 PM |
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| There's a saying,...."Behind every great man is a great woman". If you're husband is not successful or earning enough money, then it is your fault. A man can only be as good as the support he is receiving from you. You have to be the one to say "you can do it". You must be there to meet his every need when he attempts something. Everything from making sure his clothes are perfect for the job, that he eats proper meals and has enough energy to get through the day, that he comes home to an orderly house with fresh sheets on the bed, and also that you take care of all the "little" problems like the kids' needs and only call on him to help you when a strong male is needed. It will make it so much easier for him to take on extra responsibilities away from the home. There's also nothing wrong with writing job applications and letters, etc, for him, as long as they are signed by him. This is just the kind of help and support he needs from you to get started. Make your husband shine is the public eye and be totally proud of him (knowing all along that it is you who made it all happen). He will reward you in turn, showering you with abundance and love. Good luck. |
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