I have been dating someone for almost a year and he has never kept a card or note I’ve given him. Why is this? Should I be worried  that he is only in this relationship for convenience? I am sentimental and have kept every note and card he has given me. I must admit that cards have always been very important to me. He gave me a card for my birthday that was so generic I could have given it to a complete stranger and for Christmas he gave me a card that came for a package of 6 that you attach to a gift. Until recently he talked a great deal about marriage and growing young together. He now wants to live together until he can afford a nice ring and is financially stable. I have been reading For Women Only and I know this feeling is discussed in the book. Men want to be financially stable and care for us. I do understand this but I don’t understand his recent changes. He also does not follow through with plans he has made. On more than a few occasions he will tell me he is coming to my house for the evening and then changes his mind and goes home. Correct me if I am wrong in my assumptions but if you want to marry someone or live with that person do you not also want to spend as much quality time with that person as possible. In the beginning of our relationship we spent several nights a week together and now we are down to two and on occasion three. I feel like he is not as into this relationship as he was in the beginning. He does have a very demanding job as a general manager for a restaurant where he does put in about 60 hours a week. I am extremely understanding about his job, the hours he must work and the schedule which includes almost every holiday. I need some guidance because I DO NOT want to make him feel inadequate in any way. We have both felt like we a soul mates.
Sorry to ramble. Just a concerned female.
Thank you for any input.
Anne |