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JimCarson
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| 04/10/2012 7:44 AM |
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| 1) The comments I've read from women who were devastated by the Mental Rolodex are just heartbreaking. They seem to be experiencing genuine grief. Could this be examined within the construct of the Five Stages of Grief? I, for one, would love to hear about women who have gone all the way through it and gained Acceptance.
2) How has feminism affected the sexual psyche of the modern male? I went through puberty at the height of the feminist movement. When an eleven-year-old boy hears, over and over, that "Women need men like a fish needs a bicycle," he is apt to believe it. Even at 49, I'm still haunted by this feeling.
3) I have to assume that Shaunti uses "the trap of pornography" as a code phrase for what men are really doing, with or without pornography as an aide. I worry that too many women won't understand her subtlety, and falsely assume that if they never stumble across any pornography, everything must be OK. Here's an eye-opening anonymous survey question: "How many of you satisfied your own needs before you got married?" I'll bet if they're honest, the percentage will be in the high-90s.
4) I suspect that there is an assumption made by many women that if he is denied sex today, he'll be even more passionate for her tomorrow. This is a dangerous game, ladies, and could easily backfire. I know it has never worked on me. I just withdraw.
5) I don't doubt that women are much less likely than men to have a Mental Rolodex. But I'm unconvinced that this lack of visual stimulation is as prevalent as Shaunti claims in FWO. First, she only references posing the question to women in a group setting--I think the answers would be different in a controlled, anonymous survey. Also, how can it be that the number one quality that women want in a man is good looks (43%), but they don't enjoy mental images of good-looking men? Really? |
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